…Controversies have emerged in other instances when (usually white-led) lesbian and gay (and sometimes trans) reform organizations have sought inclusion or recognition from systems that feminist, racial justice, and disability justice activists and scholars have identified as key nodes of maldistribution of life chances. The quests for inclusion in US military service and in the institution of marriage have generated these same rifts. For those who know that the US military is a primary force of systematic rape, colonization, land and resource theft, genocide, and other racist and gender-based violence, the notion that a lesbian and gay political stance should focus on military inclusion rather than demilitarization is a grave, divisive mistake. For those who have long articulated opposition to state incentivization and reward for heteropatriarchial sexuality and family structures and punishment for others, the idea that lesbian and gay people should seek marriage recognition rather than aim to abolish marriage and achieve more just methods of distribution is similarly problematic.